Stoner Sex: Bareback, Election Highs, Pleasuring Oneself & Stamina

Dear Hyapatia,
I’m in a steady relationship with a great guy. I can’t tolerate birth control pills because of all the side effects. They make me very depressed and I gain about 20 pounds when I take them. I’ve been making all of my lovers use condoms, but my boyfriend says that since we’re in a committed relationship, he really wants to go bareback. I understand, but I don’t want to get pregnant. He says he’ll put on a condom right before he comes. Do you think I can trust him or do you think he will be unable to hold back? – Anita

Dear Anita,
If you have no other form of birth control and you want to be sure you won’t get pregnant, it’s not safe to have sex without a condom. Before a man has an orgasm, small drops of semen are secreted. There is sperm present – and potentially, bacteria and viruses – and you can become pregnant. Naturally, the chances are lower, but how much of a chance are you comfortable with taking? Now, let’s talk about the feasibility of him refraining from orgasm until he has wrapped that rascal. That’s an accident just waiting to happen! How are you going to feel when he says he’s sorry, but he couldn’t help it? Will you be sweating bullets before your next period? What if it doesn’t come for nine months? Do you want to be faced with an abortion because of his accident? Is it really worth all of this trauma just to appease him? Babies are a big, life-long responsibility. Have fun and all, but be safe. Consider other birth control options.

Dear Hyapatia,
We’re having a post-election party this weekend. We’ve invited a few open-minded friends to a potluck dinner, followed by a smokeout. It doesn’t matter who my friends supported in the general election; I want to show them that we can all still get along. We can break bread, burn some weed and party down. We have three bedrooms, set up in case people want to get freaky. So far, we have twelve people who’ve said they’ll be there. I’m hoping to make this a party to remember. It’s been a really mean election and horrible things were said. Now it’s time for us to “come” together as a nation and party forward into the future. With so many states voting to legalize cannabis, we have a lot to look forward to. – Chris

Dear Chris,
I think this is a great idea! We have to move forward as a nation, regardless of who wins the presidency. With more people supporting cannabis legalization than ever before, there’s a lot to look forward to. Anyone else throwing a post-election party? Tell me how it went. I love to hear from readers!

Dear Hyapatia,
I’m a single girl and though I am dating and looking for a partner, I’m in no particular hurry. I’ve been burned before and I’m holding out for the right guy, not just another good-looking guitar player with sweet-smelling weed. My girlfriend told me the other day that if I masturbate too much, I’ll get used to it and not be able to have an orgasm with a guy. She said that she even heard that some girls get so used to pleasuring themselves, that they stop looking for a man. Is that true? I like to masturbate and thought it was okay. – Maria

Dear Maria,
There is no truth to what your friend told you. Women who masturbate are better at telling their lovers what they want in bed. Sex is no substitute for companionship and, no matter how great your own hand and vibrator might be, they can’t compete with a real partner who’s there to provide love, emotional and physical support for you day and night. Don’t worry about it. Just enjoy yourself and hold out for the right guy.

Dear Hyapatia,
I’m a guy who wants to make sure that I treat my lady with the love and care she deserves. I want to be the best in bed for her that I can be. I don’t want to finish before I’ve made sure she has climaxed at least a few times. Are there any exercises I can do that would make me have more control over myself so I can be a better lover? – Steve

Dear Steve,
There are several muscles you can exercise that will help with your stamina and increase your pleasure. Try Kegel exercises. When you urinate, stop the flow mid-stream. You’ll be exercising a muscle similar to one that women have. Tightening and releasing this muscle increases control and pleasure in both men and women. When you’re erect, contract the muscle that makes your penis rise. This can also help with your control. The mind is our biggest sex organ though. Often, through the use of mental techniques, men are able to prolong sex. When you feel close to climax, think of something that turns you off for just a minute. Hold that thought for as long as it takes to calm things down.

Last week’s Stoner Sex: Aphrodisiacal Pot, Unfriending the Past, Headaches & Female Pleasure 

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