Stoner Sex: Threesomes, Faking It, Manscaping & Older Women

Dear Hyapatia,
I have always wanted to have a threesome, but I wonder if it is as great as everyone makes it out to be. I am assuming you have had threesomes. Can you share what it is like? — Jeremy 

Dear Jeremy,
Yes, I have had my fair share of three-ways. The threesome experience can be very different depending on who is involved. As a woman with two other men, I felt like the center of attention. I doubt the other guys felt that way! With one man and two women, the man could either be the object of all the affection or ignored when the women play with each other. Very few men will play with each other in a threesome with another woman, so this is a problem usually only faced by a guy. So my advice to you is to pick your partners wisely, don’t forget the sticky icky goodness to take the nervous edge off and make things even more fun and be prepared for whatever may happen. Expectations are the seeds of disappointment. Approach it with an open mind, and you should have a good experience.

Dear Hyapatia,
I am in a relationship right now with a guy who only smokes weed occasionally. I am a regular smoker. I have tried to cut back when I am around him out of respect. My problem is that when I am high, I have much stronger orgasms, and he has noticed it. He thinks he should be able to make me come just as intensely when I am not high, and he doesn’t like to give up until he has succeeded. This makes me uncomfortable, and I am really not interested in sex anymore, but he keeps trying. I have started to fake it so he will quit. Other than sexually, he is a great guy and I really like him. How can we solve this issue? — Maria

Dear Maria,
Cannabis has been used through history as an aphrodisiac in much the same way as alcohol. If you really want to stay with him, you need to explain some facts. More sex does not equal stronger orgasms. In fact, it can be very irritating to our sensitive tissues, causing us to avoid sex for days afterward. The intensity of your orgasms does not rely solely on the ability of your partner.  Studies show cannabis increases the intensity of orgasms. Just between you and me, there are plenty of wonderful guys out there who enjoy weed and won’t make you feel like you need to change your lifestyle, but if you really want to stay with him, just be honest about the benefits of cannabis in your life. If he truly cares about you, he will be willing to learn more about it and will want you to do what makes you happy. 

Dear Hyapatia,
I have noticed in adult movies most of the men have shaved their balls. Is that to make things more sensitive and exciting? I have been thinking about doing it but don’t look forward to the itching when the hair grows back. Are there any tips for avoiding nicks and cuts? — Spencer

Dear Spencer,
Actually, most guys in the movies shave to make themselves appear larger. I suppose it does have the added advantage of increased sensitivity, but that is not the original motive for most adult movie actors. If you decide to try shaving, make sure you have a good, thick shaving cream and a high-quality razor. Skimping here invites regrets; after all, this is a very sensitive area! Stretch the skin between your thumb and finger to get a smooth surface before you apply your razor. Use some good lotion after you are done to sooth irritated skin and enjoy yourself!

Dear Hyapatia,
I love older women. My girlfriend is 30 years older than I am. Some people think I am out with my mom when we are at a restaurant or club and that makes us laugh because we know our sexy little secret. Older women are more experienced and have taught me many new things. I have also found that they usually have the best weed!  There is less drama with older women, no dependency or neediness and many sexual fringe benefits. — Marc 

Dear Marc,
I am glad you have such a successful love life. Thank you for sharing. I have found the same could be said for older men!  

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